Dead and gone?

Does she still love me? If i really disappear from this world will she sense it? Blood stream down from my nose for no reason today. Well, i think i know what is going to happen soon. SHIT ASS BODY! Muscle strain again. TOTAL LOSER. Body is failing me, everything is failing. To end or not to end. One shit whole week to more sufferings, to end it there or end it now? Haii. I cant stand any shit already. I rather be dead and gone. Without her, things just dont go the way they should. Never a girl make me do such things. Guess she is the one and only.

Day 57

I am missing her more and more and more each day. I went over to her house for 2 days, it just feels weird today that i didnt. Yesterday she help me puck my goatee, she is right in front of me. I want to hold her close to me and hug her like last time. If i did will she allow? Haii. All the nostalgic feelings just row back into my mind. I MISS THE TIMES WE WERE TOGETHER! WHEN ARE WE ABLE TO BE BACK TOGETHER AGAIN?

Day 56

He cant let her go easily then what about me? I DONT INTEND TO GIVE HER UP AT ALL. THERE ISNT A THOUGHT OF GIVING HER UP AT ALL. What have i been doing for 56 days? He told such a short while and switch into a different person, what about me? It took me the second year onwards to be such a shit to her. He got so many people helping me, what about me? There isnt anyone at all! I have to face everything myself! I lost all my pride and dignity just for her. I was even being mock by others. What is happening? If she breaks his heart what about mine? I seriously dont feel like living at all when she really broke up with me. I SWEAR. But i have not guts to end it, if only i can end my life with cotton wool. I am just passing through each day with her pulling me out of my agony. She didnt break my heart? Yes she did. It was broken to many pieces. I know we both broke each others. Haii. Thinking back we lasted so long till all the shit surfaces up. I know i make her hard to believe in me now. What if i say within this 56 days, i matured through all my deep thoughts and i am really regretful. What if i say i am no longer who i am 56 days ago, what if i say i seldom show my temper already, even to my mum or anyone else. Just plainly saying all this cant make her believe me, only when she is back to me she will know. BUT HOW AM I GOING TO DO THAT? What if i say she is my soul mate? I know i am too self centered to be one last time. I didnt treat her like how she deserved to. Haii. I NEED HER BACK LIKE NOW. THE ENERGY IN ME IS DRAINING AWAY EVERYDAY! I DONT CARE THAT NS WE DONT GET TO SEE EACH OTHER IF WE ARE TOGETHER, SHE WILL FEEL LOVED DEFINITELY! I AM NO LONGER WHO I AM BEFORE! I LIVED FOR HER ONLY! EVERYTHING NOW IS ABOUT HER, JUST HER, HER, HER AND HER ONLY! I DONT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT MY HEALTH, MY BODY, MY CONDITION. I CANT EVEN WORRY ABOUT MYSELF! SHE IS THE MAIN THING NOW! My love for her grows even more for her when she is gone. I keep myself busy. Time goes faster that way, but she is still in my mind! I go to sleep alone, and wake up alone. Maybe not alone, but with her in my heart. I take walks. I work until I'm tired. i watch the wind play with the trash on the ground. Everything seems simple until you think about it. Why is love intensified by absence? WHY? Can anyone explain it to me? I did things i never did before, thought of things which i never did before, loved her even more like i never did before, cared and worried way too much about her which i never did before, didnt even put myself before her like i did before? Why am i doing all this? What is causing me to do all this actions? The answer is I LOVE HER! Am i happy that she decides to be friends with him? A little bit of happiness is all i feel. I am still sad that i cant get her back, i meant everything wholeheartedly. Will she trust me? I dont know. Will we get back? That depends on fate and my hard work. NO MATTER HOW HARD IS IT TO GET HER BACK, I WILL PROVE TO HER SOME HOW! WHY DID I REALISE MY MISTAKES WHEN EVERYTHING IS GONE? WILL SHE KNOW HOW HURT AM I? WILL SHE KNOW HOW REGRETFUL I AM NOW? WILL SHE KNOW HOW BADLY I NEEDED HER BACK? WILL SHE KNOW HOW MUCH DO I LOVE HER NOW? WILL SHE KNOW I DO NOT HAVE MUCH TIME LEFT? HAII. WHY IS FATE TOYING WITH US NOW? WHY? PULL ME OUT OF THIS TORTUROUS PIT BABY! I LEARN MY MISTAKES. I WILL PAY YOU MY SOUL JUST FOR YOU TO GET ME OUT OF THIS MESS. PLEASE LET BOTH OF US GUIDE EACH OTHER OUT OF THIS MESS AND GO BACK TO WHO WE WERE BEFORE. I REALLY REALLY REALLY CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. I MEANT THE WORD REALLY. I DONT KNOW WHAT I AM CAPABLE OF NOW.

P.S. I LOVE YOU!

Helplessly i stand

I guess today may the happiest day for me after we broke up. I get to see her and even watch dvd with her. But crap she is sick. Haii. I am only able to do this much. Haii. I cant do anything to change her mind. I know is my fault that caused her like that. I cause her to be in such a mess. I know i ruined the trust within ourselves. I blew it! I BLEW EVERYTHING!! I just hope she still feels the connection when we felt when we were together for the second time. I dont want all this to come to a waste. I knew she is my soul mate i swear. I know my actions doesnt prove to her that i love her and all. Time after time she requires me to prove the love that she needs, i simply prove it the wrong way. I really love her a lot but it just that i dont know how to express it, no matter what now if i get her back i will showered her with love in all kind of ways. I really dont know how to put myself before her already. All i doing now is for her, there isnt anything that comes before her already. I dont know who i am already, maybe guilt and regrets make me realize that this is who i have to be for her. Nothing prove to be more important than her. I guess the truth is always ugly.

Day 55

Please come back to me. I am not the same as before. I need her badly!! COME BACK TO ME!! TO ME!!

P.S I LOVE YOU

Dear Sheryl, I don't have much time. But I have a feeling this is the last few posts, because there is only one thing left to tell you. It isn't to go down memory lane or make you buy a lamp, you can take care of yourself without any help from me. It's to tell you how much you move me, how you changed me. You made me a man, by loving me Sheryl. And for that, I am eternally grateful... If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you're sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you'll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my lover. I'm a man with lots of regrets now. How lucky am I in the past. You made my life, Sheryl. But I'm just one chapter in yours. There'll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don't be afraid to fall in love with me again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you.







Every morning I still wake up and the first thing I want to do is to see your face.
I dont know what gotten into me this days, but tears finally row down from my eyes again, i can finally cry.

Day 54

IT HURTS TO SEE HER BEING SICK AND IT SUCKS THAT I CAN ONLY DO THIS MUCH!

A soul without a shell

Mistakes become regrets. I have learned to love abuse.

Day 53

Dear agony, thanks for being such a great friend for all this while. I'm falling apart, dont leave me here forever in the dark. Not all scars show, not all wounds heal, sometimes you can't always see the pain someone feel.

Dear Agony
Just let go of me
Suffer slowly
Is this the way it's got to be?
Don't bury me
Faceless enemy
I'm so sorry
Is this the way it's gotta be?

It’s quite ironic that in life, the person that brings out the best in you and the one that makes you strong is actually your weakness. She is my kryptonite.

Day 52

Do you know the feeling of waiting? The feeling of agony and anxiety? Yes. That is the feeling when i waited for her message. I rather keep myself awake and wake up extra early just to talk to her. I guess one day without her messages, i will good as dead. I mean real dead. I dont even know if i really stand a chance getting her back and all. All i had been doing each day is just praying hard for her return. The connection i felt when we got back together the second time, I knew she is the one there wont be others. SHE IS DEFINITELY THE ONE! My heart knows it the best. I am really an ass hole, i did so much foolish things to ruin our relationship. Now i am calling out to FATE, to bring us back again. No matter what i need to do to get her back, i will do it i swear. Even doing things that ruin my dignity and all, i am willing to do. So much of sufferings a little more doesnt matter at all. She has been the one giving all the long, if i get her back i definitely give my love to her non stop. Bits of me is disappearing each day, i dont know how long can i take it and how long my body can take it too. Haii. I am missing her badly, extremely badly.

Day 51

I wish last night did not end so fast. I want to hold her in my arms forever. The mixture of booze, beer and panadol is the best medicine to my sleep. It just knock me out without making me think about all the sorrows. How i wish it last night will go on and on forever. Seeing her bring life to me, leaving makes me dead once more and now add on with the hangover and vomits. It sucks big time. Haii. I miss her! I love her! I NEED HER!!

Day 50

What is that feeling inside my heart? I felt a part of me is gone. She light up the path for me to walk, guided me from darkness to light. She is my motivation force, she is the sun to my universe. I am so lost without her. I know i had not provide her what she needed. If i could get her in my arms again, i swear it will never be the same again. I will be a dog or even the lowest person on earth to love her. I can say my life is all in her hands now. This torture is killing me slowly each day, i am falling apart each day.

Useless

I CANT GIVE HER UP AND I DONT INTEND TO!!!
Why is her heart frozen? Why she cant feel anything at all? She really dun love me any more? I know she wants to be love than to love someone. What if i say i can do it NOW and future? Will change anything now? Her heart is in a mess now. She dont know what to do now. If is about love, i can only say follow her heart, follow her heart to the one she loves the most. She have to force out the feeling in her heart somehow. I only can say she have to do this on her own, no one can influence her or else she will never know what she is feeling. She should stay single till she can calm her heart down and decide her path. I dont even know if she will do that. I pray hard that she still love me. She is the only person that keep me hanging on to life right now. I will love her no matter what it takes and what ever she put me through. Everything i said has said to her already. All i can do now is pray hard for fate to bring us back again. I NEED HER BADLY!!! I LOST A PART OF ME EVER SINCE SHE IS GONE!!!

Day 49

I dont know why i am still up at this hour. I only know i am living for her each day. I need her back badly. I cant go on like this forever. It is too torturing for me! It is still her call.

Day 48

Everything i wanted say all has been said. Everyday i lied on my bed, my mind is full of her as i stared blankly at the ceiling. I dont know what i can do now. I cant give her up at all. I love her way more than i can imagine. This is just simply too tormenting for me. I only can say i deserve it.

Day 46

Yesterday would be our 32nd anniversary. Haii. We wont have any chance to celebrate all our anniversaries any more. She dont have much feeling for the guy at all. That guy wont let her go easily. She rather be loved than to love. What if i say i can do it? I think it is just useless now. Is this what she wants in her heart? All she wanted was love. But i think she just dont want to be hurt any more. We loved each other and we end up in this state. I am sorry for what i done before. I want to prove it to her but is kind of hard. It is equals to nothing. She say i had not found the right purpose in my life. What if i say i had found long ago and she is the one? I guess all this mean nothing to her. All our memories, all our love, everything is just gone like that. EVERYTHING IN HER HEART JUST VANISH IN A DAY? She mention that if we switch position and all. Will i be doing what she is doing now? My answer is yes. I will still remain in contact and all. But last time i know i did not because i didnt know what to do. I wont jump into relationship until my heart is clear. It is because a lot of courage is use to break up with the person i love and no matter what i still love her a lot. No matter what she did to me. Unless my head was hit by something hard and i lose all the memories in it. BUT WILL ALL THIS HELPS? All that are done are done, how can i turn back the time? Why i cant do anything now? WHY? Why am i so pathetic? When one thing starts to fail, everything just start failing together. I just hope for the worst now. I dont think i have much time now. What can i do now? I am not seeking for her pity or what now. I know i just dont have much time left in me.

Day 43

I am extremely down on luck for nearly 2 months. Everything is against me. I want to end everything right now!!!! I cant take it anymore.

Why?

She logged in and view my tagged account and started questioning me. It has been years i touched tagged. I added all those crap in 2006 for goodness sake. No point explaining at all. She wont believe a word from me. Her thinking of me is negative now so what ever she thinks is still negative. Those things happen was like so 2006 and she thinks that i did all this now. Ok fine. I also cant convince her. Can i prove to her i am changed? Nope. Because she cant sense it. Everything has been rebounded. What can i do? Suffer is the only option left. All she can do is keep on thinking that i have gone astray. I know i left her a bad impression of me. She doubts me and all, what can i do? Nothing but to blame myself. I haven't even show my temper for 40 plus days. Does she knows? I dont think so. She wont understand the pain and agony i am going through now. The feeling in me now is like i am left stranded there where i cant even do anything. Even i could do a thing is still useless. Do i deserve everyone's pity? NO. I deserve it. Should i be mocked by others? YES. Go ahead if everyone want to. Nothing bother to me except her. How to explain to her? How to prove to her? Well. I cant at all. I have nothing now. She doubts me, i have nothing to say. All i can say now i have my heart set, i am not stupid enough to jeopardize anything at all.

Day 42

My doomsday clock is running out of time. I praying hard for the bad news to happen tomorrow. Please get me out of this shit!!

Day 40 & 41

Doubt holds you landlocked in paralysis unable to move either way. The time you spent doubting is the time you are not alive. So, rid yourself of the doubt, take that step one way or another, your heart knows what is best, but take it right now. What am i suppose to do now. I seriously dont know what to do at all. My heart is set for her. Watch her spending her happy life with another guy just hurt me way so much. I have no choice but go through this shit just to wait for her. I have lost but why am i not raising the flag white?

Day 39

It is just astonishing how love can make one person do things that he isnt even capable of doing last time.

Day 38

The mixture of liquor plus beer plus cough mixture and panadol is the best medicine for my anguish! Why i still get drunk like last time? I need to try harder on that, hopefully getting can take away all the pain inside of me.

Day 37

What is my purpose in life now? That was what she asked me yesterday. I couldnt say out at all in front of her. My purpose in life now is to win her heart back. I want to build good close ties with her. I want to prove to her that i am no longer who i am before. This are my main purposes in life now. I get afford to lose her any more now. I am too pathetic now, nothing is important to me except her. If is possible i must get to officer cadet school in ns, i want get in ntu as well. But she is my main priority now. I want her back! I need her back! It is not the emptiness feeling in my heart, it is love! My heart is filled with pain and regrets now. I can only do this much for now. Only when she is back, then i can be back to myself eventually. I can never forgive myself for what i done to her before. Haii. This is the worst period of my life.

The feeling?

Why today she suddenly talk to me normally and all? Is it that she pity the state i am in? Or she want to be friends with me all over again? I dont know at all. Haii. I cant take any more setbacks already. How to be normal when i am forcing myself to be normal? I miss the times we were together and all. I miss her very badly. I long for her to be back in my heart. But i think is kind of impossible for her situation now. Haii. I cant take any further tortures, i am breaking down bit by bit already. Release me from all this pain, i want to die in hell. The anguish of grief and all are too much for me.

Day 36

I am not at my peak any more. My body is breaking down mentally and physically everyday. I am getting lesser sleep each day. I cant do what i am capable of doing in the past. I am falling apart. I dont know who i am any more. The more i pushed myself the more failure i receive. Why do bad things come one after and another non stop?

Empty shell

My body is filled with pain and regrets only. Mistakes and guilt are always back to haunt me. Even if i change within this few weeks, i cant even show her. I am only changing for my own good now. How can i prove to her the new me. But it seems impossible. She really really meant so much to me when i realize the lost of her. Regret is the only thing that kills me everyday. Why did i did things that i aint suppose to do to her before? Why? Why did my senses wake up at this hour? I really cant forgive myself for what i done. I really want to end my life now. It is meaningless to live for a girl who i love but dont even bother about my existence. All my efforts are just useless. I know i dont worth her love at all. But she is my everything. She guided me through darkness once and now i am back in the darkness once more. The feeling i felt everyday is not freedom. I dont feel free at all. She is my heart and soul. My heart is tied down by her. I long for her each day. But the guilt i felt is too much, that i really really really want show her who i am now. How am i suppose to do it? I cant do anything now. I am like standing in front of a group of rifleman taking all the bullets they fired but i dont seems to be dead. Helplessly i stand watching her moving further and further away from my heart. The guiltiness i felt is too much for me. I just want to end the feeling in me right now. I am sorry but i cant forgive myself for what i done to her. Only until the day she comes back to me, my guilt and all will be gone as she will know that i am no longer who i am in the past.

Lifeless soul

If you'll be my star.
I'll be your sky.
You can hide underneath me and come out at night.
When i turn jet black and you show off your light.
I live to let you shine.
Come back to me my star.

Day 35

She is so far away from me. I dont want to wake up from my sleep. I rather drown in my sleep and never to wake up again.

More heartaches

It's call breakup when it's broken. But it takes two to clap, takes two to tango. I want to repair the relationships, but she does not want to. No matter how i try to savage and all is still useless. How am i going to take back my love when she is the one holding such a big piece of my heart. Everyday i am drowned in my sorrows. I dont eat much sleep much, spent long hours thinking of her and all. I cant even help it when i am outside with my friends. I guess the best way to stop it is to let something heavy and smash on my head and crack my skull, so that i can forget everything instantly. Or i rather get knocked down by a car and remain in coma state forever. I really need her back. But it is impossible. She is out there enjoying herself with him where i am stranded here forever suffering in agony. I only can blame myself for all this things that are happening now. What doesnt kills you makes you stronger. But this is not happening at all, what doesnt kills me makes me weaker. I rather be killed than to be weaken daily. She cares for me, as in really from her heart she cares about me, or she pity me for i have become? I dont know at all. Times like this my life really doesnt even matter at all. Seeing the person you loved the most doing all the things you dont except at all, just kill me slowly. I rather opt for a fast death. When you really lose a person you loved, you will regret whatever you did to her before. I regretted and i am feeling very guilty for my doings. I cant even forgive myself for what i done. The guilt, the regrets, the pain i bear are too much. I need her back to love her like i never did before, so that all this shit i am feeling will be gone. If not nothing really matters more than my life now.

When in a relationship, dont ever buy your loved one footwear as he or she will run away to other people. This taboo has happened. And it happened to me.

Day 34

Powerless I stand, tarnished blade cutting through and pushed into my vein. She is just killing everything off inside me. I wanted to convince myself there's nothing else to do. But i cant do it. Today i spent the whole day and think about the things. Finally shed tears after one week plus. The pain inside my heart, the regrets i felt. Drank half bottle of vodka neat by myself, does that help? No. I dont know how am i going to survive from now. Finally tears come rolling down again. I miss her, i need her back in my arms, back in my heart. She is the missing piece for my heart. How am i going to forget her when she holds a big piece of my heart. Tears row down but i dont feel better at all. I am breaking down mentally and physically. I lose 2kg from 64kg to 62kg which is underweight now. I am worst than a zombie now. I dont even know who i am anymore. I have to wear a fake smile to show my mum that i am alright. I have to force myself to laugh when i am with my friends. I love her way more than i can imagine but i treat her like shit last time. Now she is gone, my life is gone too. I am buried in all my sorrows. How am i going to move without her. I cant give her up at all. Haii. 3rd doctor review is coming soon, i will have to go for CT scan. I hope i have a bad infection or a cancer that i can end my life sorrows immediately. I cant take it anymore, i need her badly. When darkness turns to light, i will be gone from this world.

What is happening?

I cant believe the fact she told me. It aint true. Haii. Use me as you will, pull my strings just for a thrill. Heartaches.

Day 33

Yes, she broke up is because of me. But she using someone to forget me, forcing herself to love a person who she dont love initially. What a rebound! So what she is with him and all, i cant contact her? When we were together that MOFOR can contact her and all. Even i complaint she still continue contact him. So in this case now where cant i contact her? How contradicting it is now. Does she have to logged into other people's profile and view me and talk to me in the person name? Immediately i can tell the person is her, so what i am telling the truth and all. Will she even bother? CRAP. What a stunt she pulled off.

Puzzled

Here is some true fact from a professional book i am reading now. It is about Dumper's Remorse. Breaking up with someone is really hard to do--it takes a lot of courage to pull the plug on a relationship. You've seen the reality and you've even been brave enough to do the deed. Well, it also says there will be a lot of second-guessing about yourself. That is very normal. But now the thing is she will be scolded by her poly clique if she meet me and contact me. I know we broke up and all. They gave her advise and she listened. Even she promise me to a meal, we have to be so low profile and discrete. Cant let anyone know about it? She claims everyone will scold her and all. The reason i cant message her is because her friends play with her phone and will fiddle with her personal stuff. Therefore she cant message me when they are not around. If she is so firm on her decision of the breaking up, does she need to follows others advise? Nope. She is the one who dump me, she is way ahead of me. I should be the one seeking for people advise and all. Well most of the advise i received aint the advise i want to hear. But i am not taking giving up as an option. She takes her poly friends advise so seriously as they make sense, but what about the rest of the world? The remaining world advise are nonsense, doesnt make any sense? Yes i seek help from both sides but none are helping at all. But her poly clique's reply to my cry for help just seems to be a mockery to them. I only can say her poly clique dont know me well enough. Their advise hence are one sided. Should i be angry with her? I cant. I only can blame myself for what i done and regret everything. I lose my face and dignity and myself in doing such things for her. Why? Because she just mean everything to me. Why is the EVERYBODY controlling her? Her doings now is still pleasing them, I thought she dont want to please anyone already? Well i cant do anything at all. I cant control her at all. In fact now she is the one controlling me. Now everything have to follow her way. I seriously need to meet the EVERYBODY she is talking about. I need talk things out with them. When she is the dumper who made her decisions and all, why cant she follows her heart in doing things? Why the need for EVERYBODY to advise her and push her in the path they want her to be in. Even dumping me is their decision?

Day 32

Why did she go to such extend to do all this things? I dont what to comment about her actions and all. I lose my dignity and all to win her back and she just pushes me further and further and further.

Help

Where is help when i need one? Where?

Day 31

Pain is the thing i can feel these days. I am no longer who i am before. Where is my heart?

Day 30

Why must it be that i must forget her? Why she cant remain inside? Her actions and all are like daggers stabbing me. How can she totally erase all our memories and treat it like it never happen? The only answer to this is that she might suffer a heavy blow to her head. Haii. I seriously dont what to do now. FB friend request reject and reject and reject now? Crap man! Just too much! Is there a need to do all this? This is totally ridiculous and outrageous. I tried to talk to her normally as a friend, and i think she thinks that i have motive. WTH. WHY? Nothing can stop my heartarches and all right now. She is just adding more and more to me.

Day 29

Her every actions are pushing me
down
down

down
down
down
down
down
down
down

down
into the bottomless pit!

Why is she doing all this?

Crap

Facebook also dont accept me as friend. She has reject my friend request like 5 or 6 times. This is crap. I am feeling crap! What in the world is this? CRAP!

Empty

Where is my soul? Where is my heart? Where am i now? I am lost without her. My heart is lost. My soul is lost. I need her back in me badly

Day 28

It has been a month since we broke up. A lot of things just gush in during the first and second week after broke up. Things i dont even want to mention anymore Things that make her change her path. Things that change her towards me. I am simply clueless why this is happening. This is one explanation for the situation i am in right now:

http://teenadvice.about.com/od/loveanddating/a/3thingslove_4.htm

Rebounding
Everybody has heard of the rebound fling. This is a relationship that comes very quickly on the heels of another relationship ending. Rebounds are rarely based on love but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends. Even people who wanted their previous relationship to end can fall for the rebound phenomenon. Rebounding can feel like love for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to being in a relationship and feeling in love and more than anything else they want to feel those things again. They convince themselves they are in love when in reality they are really missing the relationship they left behind. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they want their old partner back it just means that they want to be in a relationship with somebody… and in a rebound phase that somebody could be anybody. Rebounding is shady because usually one of the people involved has genuine feelings for the other and this person ends up getting hurt when the rebounder comes to their senses (sort of speak). You can never be open to a new love when a part of you is pining for one that has been lost. Rebound relationships are really just emotional band-aids and new love can’t be found when old love wounds haven’t been given time to heal. How can you tell when enough time has passed between the end of one relationship and the beginning of another? How can you protect yourself from a rebound-based relationship? The answers are complex. There is no proven amount of time needed to move on from a relationship and for this reason it’s hard to say how one can protect themselves and their heart from a rebound. However there are some very clear signs that you (or your new beau as the case may be) aren’t quite over a lost love. If the old relationship keeps coming up or interfering with the progress of a new relationship than chances are good that you’re stuck in a rebound. If the rebounder keeps rehashing problems from the past relationship within the new relationship this is a clear sign that they haven’t moved on enough to fall in love again. Finally, if there are unresolved issues from the old relationship chances are very good that the new relationship is a rebound. Bottom line, if you feel as if the old relationship is a third party in your relationship yours is not a relationship that is based on love. You can’t find new love when you are harboring feelings for an old love or when you are longing to be in a relationship. Love can’t be forced at will, it must be found, and that can only happen for real when our hearts and minds are free.

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/romanceafterdivorce/p/reboundrelation.htm

Defining a Rebound Relationship:
A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. If you are in a relationship but have distanced yourself emotionally from your relationship partner, you may begin a rebound relationship before you even leave the relationship you are in. If you move quickly from a long lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a “rebound relationship."

Rebound Relationships Serve a Purpose:
A rebound relationship is a distraction. It is a connection to another person that keeps us from having to experience the full extent of the emotional pain of our resent break – up. It is a misguided attempt to move on with our lives. Many people will jump back into the dating scene because they fear being alone. It’s a quick fix, one in which we can drown out our pain by reveling in the emotional intensity and passion of a new found love. It can be a a lot more fun that dealing with the misery of a recently broken heart.

Great Expectations:
Don’t go into a rebound relationship expecting your new partner to make up for the shortcomings and mistakes of the old partner. I like to call this the “knight is shining armor syndrome.” You may have just come out of a relationship that involved infidelity or abuse so, you turn around and expect your new partner to be able to make up for the pain you experienced in the old relationship. More than likely, all you will do is exchange one set of problems for another.

Too Fast, Too Soon:
If you have spent years in a bad relationship you might be itching to make up for lost time. It’s human nature to want a committed, fulfilling relationship and that desire can cause us to leap into a rebound relationship full speed ahead. We may have a sense of urgency and a desire to make sure we get it right the next time around. Those are great motivators to have but, make sure that sense of urgency is not causing you to rush in the wrong direction.

Masking Your Pain:
This is the biggest problem in a rebound relationship. Usually someone ends up being used and hurt as a result. If you are in a relationship to distract yourself from the pain of a broken heart then you are using another person. More than likely when that person has served their purpose you will move on, leaving them to pick up the pieces. Be honest with your new relationship partner about your intentions.

Being Used by The Rebounder:
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who has recently broken off a long term relationship, be cautious. Don’t allow your new relationship partner to set the pace. If you do, you will find yourself in the middle of a whirlwind. You don’t want to be left in the dust once he / she decides to move on.
If you are single, out there looking for love and longing for a committed relationship you probably won’t find what you desire from someone on the rebound. If you do become involved with such a person be sure to let the relationship develop slowly and to take care of yourself emotionally.

Emotional Pain Doesn't Kill:
Experiencing and healing the pain of a broken relationship helps us become people who are more compassionate to other people’s pain. Emotional pain won’t kill you; it’s what you will do to avoid that pain that might kill you. Or, at least make you wish you had not moved so swiftly into a new relationship. So, do yourself and any potential new relationship partners a favor and deal with the pain of your old relationship before moving onto another one.

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Haii. Everything is the same answer. How to make her see things clearly? How? Can anyone help me! No matter how hard i try to savage things and all, it just didnt work out. I am just a loser now. How am i going to show her everything i do is from my heart? I love her very much.