Puzzled

Here is some true fact from a professional book i am reading now. It is about Dumper's Remorse. Breaking up with someone is really hard to do--it takes a lot of courage to pull the plug on a relationship. You've seen the reality and you've even been brave enough to do the deed. Well, it also says there will be a lot of second-guessing about yourself. That is very normal. But now the thing is she will be scolded by her poly clique if she meet me and contact me. I know we broke up and all. They gave her advise and she listened. Even she promise me to a meal, we have to be so low profile and discrete. Cant let anyone know about it? She claims everyone will scold her and all. The reason i cant message her is because her friends play with her phone and will fiddle with her personal stuff. Therefore she cant message me when they are not around. If she is so firm on her decision of the breaking up, does she need to follows others advise? Nope. She is the one who dump me, she is way ahead of me. I should be the one seeking for people advise and all. Well most of the advise i received aint the advise i want to hear. But i am not taking giving up as an option. She takes her poly friends advise so seriously as they make sense, but what about the rest of the world? The remaining world advise are nonsense, doesnt make any sense? Yes i seek help from both sides but none are helping at all. But her poly clique's reply to my cry for help just seems to be a mockery to them. I only can say her poly clique dont know me well enough. Their advise hence are one sided. Should i be angry with her? I cant. I only can blame myself for what i done and regret everything. I lose my face and dignity and myself in doing such things for her. Why? Because she just mean everything to me. Why is the EVERYBODY controlling her? Her doings now is still pleasing them, I thought she dont want to please anyone already? Well i cant do anything at all. I cant control her at all. In fact now she is the one controlling me. Now everything have to follow her way. I seriously need to meet the EVERYBODY she is talking about. I need talk things out with them. When she is the dumper who made her decisions and all, why cant she follows her heart in doing things? Why the need for EVERYBODY to advise her and push her in the path they want her to be in. Even dumping me is their decision?